What helped me the most in giving birth naturally

Each woman has her own vision, expectations, fears and wishes for the birth of her child and every birthing experience is totally unique and beautiful. It is quite tricky to advice on such a personal matter, given that what might work for you might not for another woman or might not be what she wishes for. I am just going to tell you here what I was personally wishing for and what helped me the most during my labor and childbirth.

In line with my philosophy of natural is best, I felt I wanted a natural childbirth. I wanted to successfully give birth to my son without the help of medications or other medical interventions. I knew that would not be subject to my wish only and that I should be ready for all scenarios. But, as a personal choice, I wanted to be in control, to feel what my body goes through and to respond to it.

I was blessed things went well for me. Nineteen hours of labor (and no medication) later, I gave birth to my son Victor—What a glorious moment! I listed below a few things that helped me face this challenge.

Preparation/Knowledge

While pregnant, I did a lot of research about the act of giving birth. I wanted to know it all (at least for the theoretical part). I attended a childbirth preparation workshop in Manila given by Birthing is a Blessing; I absolutely loved it! Not only loved it, I really needed it! I learnt about the physiology of labor and birth, nature’s hormonal blueprint of labor, comfort measures in birthing, breathing and relaxation techniques among others. Also, for the first time, I was presented birth as a natural and spiritual act (and not a medical procedure), a passage that should be experienced fully. The messages given there were beautiful and powerful and I really felt empowered attending the workshop. If you are pregnant and interested, I suggest you check it out. Being prepared and knowledgeable on the big day will help you avoid some unnecessary stress and will make you feel stronger!

Trust

Midway in pregnancy, I read a really great book: Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. It is filled with inspiring true stories of women who gave birth naturally. Reading them one by one helped me realize that, at the end of the day, we, women are physically designed to successfully give birth naturally. The positive testimonials helped me further trust my body and my natural power to give birth. It really helped! For the preggy ladies out there, who were told a lot of terrifying stories, I suggest you read this book. It might completely change your vision about birthing and help you relax a little more!

Environment

The environment you are in while birthing can really have a big impact on your mood and on your mind. I personally visited each birthing room of the hospital I was scheduled to give birth in, prior to reaching full term. I listed my favourite rooms based on lighting, colour and space criteria. It is so important to be in an environment in which you feel comfortable and peaceful while giving birth. Don’t hesitate to pack anything that could help you feel home. Bring a family picture, your favourite pillow or even some calming scent. I personally brought a set of candles. I love candle light, it makes me feel so serene! I also brought the most enchanting and elevating music I know. All these little things contributed greatly in making me feel at ease and positive on the big day!

Mentoring/Support

Have you ever heard of a Doula? While pregnant, I came across the concept and I loved it! A Doula is a birth companion, providing physical and emotional support to a woman before, during and after childbirth. Birthing is a Blessing in Manila is offering such a service and I decided to give it a try. Personally, I felt in need of physical and emotional support from someone experimented and knowledgeable in the field of natural birthing. Betty, my Doula from Birthing is a Blessing was there to mentor and support me since the beginning of my pregnancy. She always had precious advices and worked on making me feel strong and empowered. Having her by my side while giving birth made a real difference, she helped me feel safe and focused. If you also feel like you need support, contact her! I am sure she will help a lot.

Birth Plan

Towards the end of my pregnancy, I wrote down my birth plan. Basically, I listed on paper all my wishes for the labor and birth of my baby. This exercise helped me make my wishes clear to everyone. I discussed it with my gynaecologist prior to my labor and she approved my requests. My birth plan was also given to all nurses and medical staff present on the day, such that everyone was informed about my preferences. Thanks to the plan and a really comprehensive staff, all my wishes were well respected and things went smoothly.

So, these are pretty much the things that helped me the most in my very unique birthing experience… Hopefully, it can benefit some of you too! :)

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Hi, I am Ady! Wife to my filipino love and mum to my eurasian baby bear. Loving the outdoor, travelling and everything natural & healthy!

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